This post is completely random and un-book related, but it's something I want to talk about and get off my chest. And I also want to hear from you guys and get your advice. To start this off, you should know that I'm a very positive person. I'm happy. I smile a lot. Not a lot gets me down and not a lot of people can push my buttons. So when somebody gets to me, it's got to be pretty bad right? And being a positive person, makes being around negative people exhausting to me. I literally feel drained after spending hours of my day with them. It's not even anything they're doing to me specifically. It's just the environment they create. I can feel the negativity sitting in the air.
Not only am I positive person, I'm also a very strong extrovert. Which means that I need, yes literally need, to talk to people throughout my day or I become lethargic and crabby. [Sidenote: At work we went through MBTI testing and found out our types and learned all about this. Super interesting stuff. I'm an ENFJ if you're wondering.] So when I'm surrounded by negative people, I don't talk to said people and then I'm left feeling drained and exhausted a). because I've been in a negative environment all day and b). because I haven't spoken to anyone all day.
When put in negative environments, I've tried listening to music, moving around as much as possible and discussing my issues with whoever the culprit is. But none of this has really seemed to help. The music is probably the best, but then I start to feel drained because I haven't spoken to anyone all day. Doiuble-edged sword here, people.
And do you know what sucks the most about this? When you genuinely like whatever you're doing/wherever you are, but the negativity is making you dread it. It amazes me how much your environment can impact your general happiness and enjoyment of things. That's why people constantly preach at you to surround yourself with positive people. Because their smiles will put a smile on your face. Their positive attitudes will rub off on you. And isn't life better when you're happy and smiling?
But of course, you can't always avoid negative people or environments. So what do you do when you're forced to deal with it on a regular basis? What do you do to combat negativity? How do you not let it get you down? How do you stay in positive spirits when the people around you are negative?
Hmmm…don't know if I have any advice to give you about this. Honestly, I just try to minimize my dealings with negative people. If you can't avoid it, just be around them the minimum amount of time you can? I don't know. I had a good friend in law school who was so negative. He was fun to be around when you were in the mood to bitch and whine (which happened a lot in law school), but I quickly realized that he was like that ALL THE TIME. He never stopped being negative. So I could only take him in small doses. I know I haven't been any help at all, sorry! ~Pam
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard. I really don't think that there's anything more I can do. I just try to listen to my music, and stay as far away as possible. I'll just keep smiling. :)
DeleteAww, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! I've recently escaped some negative people iny life, and it's WOMDERFUL. Completely worth the sacrifices I had to make to make it happen. So that's my only advice, but I know it's not always possible to change your situation, and that can be difficult. Hang in there and hope they eventually leave, lol?
ReplyDeleteI should take that personality test. What you said about feeling drained after not talking to people is soooooo true for me! I thought it was just me that was like that! I struggle with being a stay at home mom now- I love it, but if I don't talk to of connect with another adult all day, I get really depressed and down by the evening, and it sucks.
Yay! So happy you escaped the negativity! That's kind of where I'm at right now. Hope they leave. Lol
DeleteYes! It was so interesting to go through the results and be like "oh my gosh, yes! That's totally me!" Super interesting. I think it's something that you have to pay for though so a lot of people don't take it. :/ Work paid for mine. But if you ever get the opportunity definitely take it. It's taught me so much about myself as a person!
I don't know if I have any good advice to give.... I see a lot of patients that are generally negative. I grit my teeth (literally) and put on a really pleasant voice. This was most of my day today. I know, it's prob bad for my teeth. And. Yeah, I wasn't much help here was I. :/
ReplyDeleteYou can always text me and channel your extrovertness through text! :D
Awww thank you! Also I love how you point out that gritting your teeth is bad for your teeth. Lol dentist.
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