So today is normally Top Ten Tuesday. And normally I
participate. But with this week, I couldn't. You know why? Because the
topic is Top Ten Books I Almost Put Down. I'm sure you're all wondering
what the big deal is. Well it's because I'm really bad at quitting
books. So in my reality, there's no books that I "almost put down"
because it rarely, if ever, happens. I just don't think that way because
my brain is constantly telling me, what if it gets better and I miss
out on a great book? This normally doesn't end up happening, but
apparently I like to torture myself. Some people say that I'm too nice
and perhaps this is the reason why I can't put books down.
Here's another example. An unnamed person asked me to
borrow money. This person was very close to me (think family). Said
person basically said if I can't borrow money I won't have any money for
groceries this month. What am I supposed to say to that? No? Of course
not. So I said yes, even though I knew it was risky and that I may have
never seen the money again. (I did get the money back, but still.)
What do you guys think? Am I too nice? How do you make yourself put a book down? Anybody else out there with this same problem?
Hugs! I think I'm too nice sometimes. I DNF'ed one book in my whole reading hobby.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard to put them down!!!
DeleteI think I am too nice at times too. I have a hard time saying no, and when I do I end up feeling guilty about it. I had a hard time with this TTT too. I only had 5 books on my list. And they are mostly books that I ended up liking anyways. I wish I had advice on how to put a book down, but I haven't put any down. I make myself finish reading it in case it gets better.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad that I'm not alone in this! It's just so hard to put it down because what if????
DeleteI really need to borrow some money...... for books, ahem, I mean food. :D
ReplyDeleteI don't finish every book I start, but I feel bad EVERY SINGLE TIME that I put one down. I think I love books so much, that I even like the ones I'm not enjoying reading... does that make sense? Like I respect the author, and the physical book for writing and existing.
Lately I notice that if I don't really like a book by 75 pages in, I don't usually end up feeling differently. However, if I have several friends who love it I may keep reading it. If not, and it already has average reviews... I set it aside.
Also, in regards to people, I'm nice until I'm not. Like, I'll give you a ride one time in a scenario like the one above, but next time you need to ask nicely (instead of melt down) and throw me some gas money for my trouble. It sounds like you lean towards being a bit too nice, but I think all the best people do. ;)
bahahahaha! sure, let me just wire you some right now. ;)
DeleteYes, that totally makes sense! Because I feel the same way. Even if I don't like the book, I still feel for the book. Because some awesome person wrote it. Went through a ton of work and got it published and that deserves respect to me.
Aww thank you dear! <3
Exactly. :)
DeleteYou're not too nice! I do the same thing with books! I always think "it may get better", and it sometimes does. I think the problem is that I don't want to feel like I'm missing out. The only times when I've stopped reading a book is when I've put it off for too long (think 6 months) or when they expire from the library.
ReplyDeleteI think if someone would have asked me for money, I wouldn't have (because I don't have much money myself! Lol). However I COULD give them a ride. Although it would depend if I knew where it was, if my car could get there, etc. I guess I'm not that fit to be in Abnegation, lol.
Exactly. I always feel like I'm missing out if I put a book down. I actually jut put one down the other day and I am still feeling guilty over it. :/
DeleteI'm not fit to be in Abnegation either. That takes being too nice to a whole other level. I think that I need to think a little bit more about myself, but I also like that I think of others and that I'm nice. It's who I am, you know?
I wouldn't say you're too nice. I think everyone is just different.
ReplyDeleteI used to never DNF books, but I've come to realize that there just isn't enough time in the world for me to read books that I honestly don't like. I do always give books a second chance though. If a book isn't working, I'll usually put it down and go back to it a week or so later. If the book still isn't working for me, then I'll just DNF it. Usually though it has to be something pretty major for me to DNF a book. I've only done it maybe 2 times.
In life though, I do have a very difficult time saying no as well. So I definitely understand your point of view.
Oh good. Thank you! I agree that there isn't enough time...but but but....what if it gets better? what if I'm missing out??? It's so risky!!!
DeleteI pretty much finish every book I read too. I will start skimming, though, so it doesn't take as much time. I figure if I waste three hours, that's not too bad. There have been books I've set aside, but it's more because I'm not in the mood for them right then and I do plan to go back and finish them. So I technically don't count that as a DNF. Maybe I'm just fooling myself, but oh well! ~Pam
ReplyDeleteYeah, I do that. But 3 hours!! That you can never get back. That you could have spent on another, better book. I wish I could put books down.
DeleteI'm getting better and DNF'ing books, but I still have a ways to go. For some absurd reason I feel guilt when I abandon a book. Seriously, it's not like the author is going to show up at my door to yell at me or something, lol. I just read/finished two awful books and I spent most of the time thinking 'I really should just quit reading this stupid book', but I didn't sigh... at least I got a couple of snarky reviews written up, because of them, lol.
ReplyDeleteI do too! It's horrible! I know the author isn't going to know, but still, I feel bad. *sigh* It sucks!
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